What makes us the people we are to the rest of the world? What shapes, molds, and defines us as we grow older and move through life? Does who we are change based on who we’re interacting with, and do they change again when we’re alone? These are challenging questions that face us every day, and daily we answer them whether we know it or not.
Compared To Others: We behave and make choices based on who we respect-a boss or mentor or friend. Maybe it’s based on their material assets, their relationships with their family, or their level of influence over others. Take note-do your actions around them carry over when they aren’t there? Do these actions improve your attitude and help those around you? Or do you feel drained trying to keep up with their standards and life-style?
Compared To Yourself: We’re rarely completely free of outside influence…but try to make space to understand yourself apart from others. Have a day (once a month?) where you are running on your own time-clock, you have no obligations, no pressure. What activities do you gravitate towards? What music do you listen to? Who do you think about, and why are they on your mind?
Following someone else’s desires creates a lot of unhappiness in this world. Trying to fit into something you’re not created for builds false relationships which eventually leads to disappointment.
This is Encouraging: Every day is an opportunity to make New choices. We can choose to be content with what we have rather than spending what we don’t. We can choose to get off the couch for some fresh air and exercise. We can choose to spend time with someone different, and use that time to encourage each other to work towards your personal dreams.